Comment · Fri, July 31, 2020 · Natrium Health & Nootropics Depot
What Nootropics were the biggest leap for you?
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RAMDASS2 · 205 points
What Nootropic had the most effect on you? What did it do?
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LockeHardcastle · 2 points
How did you get that from my comment? In no way shape or form am I saying you should be constantly comparing your life to those around you,
I haven't exactly gotten that from your comment. I felt I would reply to your comment anyway because maybe you had something insightful to say. You haven't disappointed, in that regard!
I CAN however say I've gotten that message from society. Society and consumerist culture have become "one" at this point. Whatever the advertising agencies present to you as the Achievements or Objects or Symbols of a "successful man" it's what you need to have to be seen as "valuable" or, barring that, you need to mimic or "act the part." Some of us can't really do either one, and that's the point.
Now I said Achievements and Symbols there, which are not physical items, true enough. But in an extremely consumerist/corporate culture, everything becomes an object. If you don't possess the Objects that society wants you to have (including a "good enough job"), it often will deprive you from having the respect of others... and the further you fall from the "minimum bar" per age group, the less interest anyone will have.
Surely the simplest example I can give (and this is a very gendered aspect right here) is let's say you have a man in his 30s and he's on the spectrum and/or has a low-wage job. If this guy is honest about his plight in the dating…
u/MisterYouAreSoDumb · Natrium Health & Nootropics Depot
I do agree that modern society pushes people in unhealthy ways. However, I posit that it always has in one way or another. Society in the 50s was very sexist and racist. The farther you go back, the more brutal society gets. So while modern society does push people in a lot of wrong ways, it's not necessarily new to society. It's just different ways.
One lesson that I can give you is about your assumption of what society values. You are somewhat correct in your assumption that society values achievements and relative measures of success. That's actually fairly reductionist, though. What society, and ultimately the people that make up that society, value most is actually confidence. Remember, everyone else is also on their own journey. Many of them are feeling the same feelings you are. They are scared of failure. They are concerned they are not good enough. They are unsure of who they are, or what value they bring. So you are often hit with a lot of projection. People are not okay in their own shoes, so they project those insecurities on others. However, when they see someone that is confident, they can actually feel comforted by that. I am not talking about arrogance, but a measured amount of confidence. They are unsure of their journey, and actually feel better when they see someone confidently pushing through their own journey. As a corollary, if they see someone that is not confident, it makes their own feelings of inadequacy come to the surface. So they shy away from those people. It's just a natural reaction people have. Sure, that can mean society as a whole is sick, and I do agree with that for the most part. However, that doesn't help you personally in the moment. We can point to the shortcomings of society, and work towards fixing them. However, we cannot fall back on that as an crutch in our own journeys. We can only try to be the best person we can be, and be confident in that. Then we are at our best to make our way through the broken parts of modern society.
It's the same for dating. Women are all feeling similar feelings as men, but from different perspectives. They are not immune to projection, either. However, all anyone really wants in a mate is someone that makes them feel happy, safe, secure, and wanted. If you are not okay with who you are, and are not confident in who you want to be, you can never truly be that person as a mate. It's less about having a good job or lots of money. It's about being secure in who you are, and happy with the path you are on. If you can achieve that, you will find an interested partner. You don't have to be hugely successful or rich. You just have to be happy with who you are and confident in your own shoes. That can be difficult, I know. Believe me, I have been there. But you have to shift your focus away from society and the perceived requirements you think people have. You have to only focus on yourself and what makes you happy. You have to focus on what makes you unique, and how you want to use that to steer you on your path. If you focus on what you want, and how to be the best version of you, the rest will come. Because remember, everyone is on unique journeys of their own. Nobody has everything figured out, and they just want to feel happy, safe, secure, and wanted, and gravitate towards people that help them to feel that way.